Why it is hard leaving a bad marriage

When a relationship ends, it can be devastating and a time of uncertainty. This is further challenging if your family don’t understand what you are going through and either ...

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Overcoming isolation and loneliness as a single primary parent

When a relationship ends, it can be devastating and a time of uncertainty. This is further challenging if your family don’t understand what you are going through and either ...

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Expert advice from family lawyer: Take care of your mental health

In conversation with Family Lawyer, Ms Turner, talks about the importance of taking care of your mental health when going through separation or divorce. She shares her top five tips ...

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How to spot a cheater

When you get the hunch that your partner may be cheating on you, it is a feeling that doesn’t go away until you have concrete evidence that it is either ...

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Is it time to remove your rings?

I thought my wedding ring and engagement rings were beautiful with a thought-filled setting. I gave it back to my ex-husband on two occasions. One time was during our engagement when ...

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Father's Day or Positive Male Role Model Day?

My children for the past six years have celebrated ‘Grandfather’s Day’ or ‘Uncle’s Day’ on the first Sunday in September… that was until last year. I was presented with the conundrum ...

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Tips for a successful Father's Day

Fatherhood is an incredibly special journey for many men. Often it is a pivotal point in their lives where men step-up and choose to be responsible for a dependent little person that is relying on their ...

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Minimising anxiety and helping children transition between two homes

Sending children from one home to another and transitioning between parents can be difficult at times for the parents as it is for the children. As such, we have to appreciate that every person parents their child differently – no two ...

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Considering a trial separation?

What is a trial separation? A trial separation is an agreed time when a couple in a marriage or significant relationship are unsure whether they want to continue to be with each other or set each other free. It is ...

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The new financial year marks a scheduled review of your Parenting Plan

When a relationship or marriage ends, people more often struggle with their identity. For many years or decades, you were comfortable as being referred to or known as someone’s wife/husband, someone’s son/daughter or someone’s mother/father. This changes in ...

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Reclaiming your identity after break-up

When a relationship or marriage ends, people more often struggle with their identity. For many years or decades, you were comfortable as being referred to or known as someone’s wife/husband, someone’s son/daughter or someone’s mother/father. This changes in ...

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Expert advice on conveyancing without the emotions in separation

When I met with Ms Yolanda Regueira from Cling Long Woodbridge Lawyers, I learned so much about the psyche when selling and buying a property, particularly when it is a part of a divorce settlement ...

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When your spouse's adult children give you the cold shoulder...

A colleague enquired about tips to ‘smooth the waters’ when partnering with someone who has adult children that are a little ‘cool’ towards you. If this sounds like you, your spouse will appreciate your efforts tos ...

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Your options for the money saved on legal fees by being proactive

Do you have a monthly budget for legal fees? Do you know how many hours this offers you with your lawyer each month? Separating can be an expensive time and learning to be more conservative with your finances ....

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Read this before deciding to cohabit as a divorced parent

It is more financially viable to have another adult in the home as you raise your children or as the children spend time with you. However, there are a number of items that need to be considered when you do plan for ....

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From Break-up to Boomerang

We hear so much about the ‘boomerang’ generation, the millennials who have to move home after living their lifestyle lavishly. However, what is being overlooked are the copious number of....

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My Single-Mother's Day

One of the pitfalls of celebrating Mother’s Day as a single parent is that there isn’t anyone else to go to that effort to recognise you as a mum and say a big “thanks.” How we empower our children to....

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To my Mum going through Separation

Australian statistics show that the vast majority of children live in the primary care of their mother. As a mother navigating separation, financial restraints may …

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How to stay involved as a spends-time-with parent

For one parent, divorce and separation means an uncertainty in how to be involved and stay involved in the lives of the children. According to the ABS, 3.1% of Australian families are headed by....

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What is your visualisation block?

Sometimes, I write and speak about the power of visualisation. Visualisation is seeing the future, how it plays out and what the end result is with the expectation of manifestation. I stress how....

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Overcoming Financial Settlement Woes

When you have a dinner party, one of the things you are told is not to talk about politics, religion and money. These topics can incite a lot of emotion and it isn’t much different when coming to or discussing....

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Step parenting 101: parenting someone else's children

Whether you are becoming a step parent for the first time or for the second or third time, it will always be new and unchartered territory....

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Sleep Hygiene: Good for children, great for adults

Hauling children off to bed can become at difficult task. Equally, taking ourselves off to bed at a reasonable time can be a challenge. By implementing...

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Co-Parenting. How to rise to the challenge

Co-parenting. It sounds like a great word, but many of us don’t know what it really is or how to do it...

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To my Dad going through divorce

Some children live with their father, other children only get to spend time with them. With a generalised view, many fathers become the spend-time with parent (or non primary parent). The changes …

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Expert lawyer shares tips for expats separating overseas and in Australia

Many families decide to move abroad and become expatriates for an amount of time, whether it is for one parent’s career, returning to a country of origin with ...

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What is a Conciliation Conference?

No one starts a relationship or marriage with the expectation of ending in divorce. Sometimes we can’t help the path that our marriage takes and can only ...

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Successfully navigating Divorce and trusting in the process [personal perspective]

No one starts a relationship or marriage with the expectation of ending in divorce. Sometimes we can’t help the path that our marriage takes and can only ...

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Breaking up is your opportunity to shine

Breaking up is a hard time for all people involved, especially when it comes as a surprise, after a long marriage or when children are involved. Your emotions can become overwhelming and, at times, crippling. You might not feel like …

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Valentine's Day 2018. Celebrating the most important person in your life

Valentine’s Day can be a time of great elation, joy and excitement, especially when you have someone to share it with. For others, Valentine’s Day is a reminder that …

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Toxic Talk

All too often, following separation, we often feel a little less confident in ourselves. We have been identified for a long time as the partner to someone else and been able to rely upon them or ...

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Creating an achievable resolution in 2018

It is the second day of 2018. Have you fulfilled and whole-heartedly committed to your resolution for the past 2 days? Many people may be muttering ...

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Simple Self-Care Tips

When divorcing, there is a lot to do, prepare and coordinate. It is not just physically taxing but also emotionally intensive and this incites positive and negative feelings. Coupling a separation or divorce with Christmas can be an overwhelming feat to undertake ...

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7 pressures that can strain a marriage

The are many things that can contribute towards the break-down of a marriage or serious relationship. Here are just a few pressure points that can strain a marriage ...

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Separation + Work = Financial Independence

For many individuals, separation means that they need to seek employment and be financially independent. This can be scary if you haven’t worked in a number of years (or ...

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Getting the most out of mediation with advice from expert facilitator

When an expert mediator wants to share tips on how to get the most out of your mediation or family dispute resolution, it’s time to start taking notes! ...

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How to strengthen the bonds between siblings during divorce

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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Lessons I learned with my family lawyer

Having a healthy level of expectations and understanding when working with a lawyer is essential. If you expect your lawyer to answer all of the small questions, sort out every little issue or document every concern, you will ...

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When Mums are Dads

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Emotionally Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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24 ways to stretch your legal budget during divorce

There are more people than ever before using the Family Courts. The vast majority of the separating population are not able to afford unlimited legal representation. Equally, more and more people are self-representing and, understandably, they...

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10 ways to show affection without buying a gift

You don’t need to open your wallet and buy something to sow someone that you love them. There are ways that you can show affection without buying a gift or flowers. Divorce Answered offers 10 suggestions for ...

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12 Christmas Tips: How to Financially Prepare

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Should Children Share a Bedroom? Considerations for and against it

As urban and metro areas become more densely populated, housing and blocks of land become smaller. More people are being forced to share a smaller space. For many people ...

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Mental Health Awareness Day. A Marriage Under Pressure

When I separated in 2012, I knew that I did everything I could to try to get my husband help. The challenge with mental health is that it isn’t a tangible issue and there are ebbs and flows. More pitfalls...

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Self-medication alternatives when depressed or experiencing depression

Separation ultimately and periodically takes a toll on individuals. There will be moments of stress, anxiety, helplessness and frustration which can leave you feeling depressed or with depression. When these feelings arise, ...

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Was sharing a bathroom a contributing factor to your divorce?

(blog) I am clearly a challenging and particular person. I like things tidy and neat (where possible) and even behind the closed doors and inside cupboards. In an ideal world, I think men, women and their partners ...

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The Christmas Creep. Is your bank account prepared for Christmas?

(blog) Christmas - Aargh! It has crept up on me again. The bank balance is looking sad and in dire need of a cash windfall. My heart starts to beat fast when I recall ...

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Divorced and Dating. The Two Types of Women

(Personal perspective) In 2012 my marriage was irreparable. Within days of my separation, I had two other girlfriends also separate. Incidentally, I have met and supported many women throughout their separations and ...

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Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Making the decision to end a marriage is a very big decision. Many people took vows to live together through poverty and poor health for the rest of their lives. Leaving the marriage leaves them feeling ...

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The Rights Of Grandparents In Divorce

Today, more than any previous generation, grandparents are playing a more active role in the lives of their grandchildren. This post is dedicated to Nanna. Nanna is concerned for other grandparents who aren’t able to facilitate a loving relationship with their grandchildren of divorce ...

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Learning to self-love after divorce

Often people leave their marriage feeling broken, bruised and bashed-about. They struggle with confidence as a parent, partner and as a person. Often, they have lost their self-value. Somehow and in some way, they need to find...

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R U Ok? Day. Considering divorcees and the children of divorce

R U Ok? Day is today, September 14, 2017, which means that more than ever before, we need to check in with our friends, family, neighbours and particularly the growing number of divorcees. This year, you are asked you to please pay particular attention to your friends starting or in the thick of their divorce...

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What To Do Now That You Are Separated

While divorce is devastating, it can be equally as liberating. Whether you made the decision or the decision to end the union was made for you, it is still a huge change. For many people, they...

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Deciding Not To Be A Divorce Victim

What marriage is and what it looks like is ever changing. The traditional 1950s stay at home mother with working husband is antiquated. Today, there are traditional, blended and single-parent families, de facto...

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Navigating Father's Day for Children of Divorce and their Dad

Many fathers wish that they could have more time each day, week or month with their children and this is often highlighted on Father’s Day. According to the ABS, almost one in 5 families are...

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Father's Day Solutions For Children of Single and Solo Mums

Not every child is fortunate to have their dad active and involved in their daily lives. There are many who have limited to no contact. The reasons for...

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Single Parents Guide to Navigating Special Occasions

As special occasions arise throughout the year, many divorced and single parents feel unsettled or unsatisfied with the parenting and visiting arrangements. It isn’t until...

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Shaking the Shackles of Marriage. How to have the 'I want a Separation' conversation

Deciding to end a relationship or a marriage is a life changing decision and the first step towards moving forward begins with a long and detailed conversation with your partner...

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12 Simple Ways to Help Children Through Divorce

Divorce and separation changes the dynamics for a family. Often the parents are so wrapped up in their own emotional turmoil that the children are sometimes the forgotten victims. Here are some...

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5 Tips for Leaving An Abusive Relationship

It is alarming to know that domestic violence is an ongoing issue around the country. In fact, one in three Australian women have experienced physical violence and one in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse by a current or former partner . Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate ...

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How soon is too soon to move on after divorce?

Divorce Answered reflects upon the ‘how soon is too soon to move on after divorce’ question and offers some self-reflection considerations before taking the leap. “When is it the right time to move on?” is one of the biggest questions faced by...

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6 Phrases Not To Say To Your Divorcing Friend

Divorcing is difficult. Friends and family want to support you. Just like in times of loss and grief, separation is equally difficult and finding the right words can be hard. As a support person, the top...

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The Importance Of Following Professional Advice and Recommendations

Failing to follow the recommendations of any professional throughout the divorce process could have undesired consequences. Depending on your court case, your lawyer, appointed judge and other professionals, you may not like the outcomes that are either...

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Baby Boomer De Facto Relationships Exposed

Many Baby Boomers (people born post World War II, between 1946 and 1964) often recouple when in a financially sound situation. They couple for many reasons, primarily for companionship. Rachael Scharrer, founder of online resource DivorceAnswered.com.au has exposed the lesser known truths about ...

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De Facto Relationship Myths Debunked

All too often we hear couples in long term relationships say that “marriage is only a piece of paper” or “we didn’t get married because we don’t want to get divorced.” Unfortunately, these couples don’t realise that they are actually part...

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What To Do When Your Ex IS SAFE And Threatens Suicide

At the end of a relationship, often one spouse copes better with the change than the other. One of the spouse may feel a sense of relief, optimism and elation compared to the other who is lost, confused and filled with remorse or regret. Grief is also ...

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What To Do If You Can't Afford A Lawyer

It is stressful if you are on a budget and wondering how you will meet the costs of a lawyer. Retaining a family lawyer from start to finish may mean an overwhelming invoice at the end. Similarly, not hiring a lawyer could be a mistake...

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The Duality Of Feelings in Separation

Separation can leave you feeling two extremes - One that weighs heavily upon you while experiencing the opposite emotion at the same time. Separation is a process highlighted with emotional challenges and growth concurrently occurring. On any given day...

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The Lessons Learned From Divorce

Divorcing can be a time of awakening and enlightenment while filled with challenges and tribulations. However, once you have made your way through the process and once ...

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